Sunday, December 28, 2008

Saying Goodbye...


It's no secret that Amanda and I haven't been faithful at updating our blog on a weekly basis. I wish I could blame it solely on the fact that we have lost our camera chord, making it impossible to load our pictures onto our computer, but something else has been holding me back from posting on this website.

At the beginning of the month, on December 4th, I received a call from my mother. She informed me that my grandmother had passed away.

Since then, it's been hard to find anything else blog-worthy. I've thought about addressing her death on our blog, but throughout my life, I've always been a very private mourner. Not only that, but I also didn't know what to say.

Amanda, more than anybody, can testify to how hard it's been for me to talk in depth about my grandmother's death.

Simply announcing her death would be a huge injustice to how big of a role she played in my life and how wonderful of a lady she was to everyone who knew her. But at the same time, I naturally have wanted to keep her passing away a private matter.

The problem is, it's really hard to update all of you guys on all the great things that go along with our first year together as newlyweds, without sometimes talking about events that happen outside just Amanda and myself.

MY GRANDMOTHER...

The picture above was taken this past August at Grandma's 87th b-day dinner
that Mom, Pops, Amanda and myself shared with her. She was taking off her
glasses so "she would look younger." So funny.

Many grandchildren don't have the gift of spending nearly their entire childhood near their grandparents. I guess I'm one of the lucky ones.

When I was young, my Granddaddy Brown passed away from cancer. After that happened, Grandma moved literally across the street from my family. Throughout my childhood, Grandma was at nearly every one of my ball games. She was around the house after school, she went to church with us, she went fishing with us... everywhere we went, Grandma was with us.

When we moved to Wake Forest, North Carolina, Grandma followed. Once again, my Grandma moved into a place within a block of our home. Grandma was always there to the extent that after a while, she started to feel more like a mom than a grandmom.

I was a lucky grandson and I know both of my brothers feel the same way.

This month has been hard. I've wanted to write about so many things, but every time I am about to long onto our website and start typing, I just felt like something was missing. For the first time since I can remember, my Grandma isn't around.

Over the last couple years it has been very wearing to watch my grandmother grow more and more limited each passing day. It was easy to see Alzheimer's toll after every time I saw her.

The hardest things to hear from her was her pleading request to be taken "home." She couldn't always tell you where "home" was, but she knew she wasn't there. It was also hard to hear her express how much she missed my grandfather. She made it known that she was ready to go "home."

While it's good to know that her body and mind is no longer paralyzed by Alzheimer's, it's difficult to imagine life without her. The only relief that I can find in her passing away, is the joy that I get knowing that she is finally home.

Home to my grandmother was where her husband was and where she wasn't in pain. The selfish side of me is sad to know that I will never have that piece of "home" that I had growing up as a child without her being around, but in my heart, I find comfort in my assurance that she is in Heaven. What Jesus offered my grandmother was a "home" where she could be reunited with her husband, a painless life.

One thing that I've learned through all this is appreciate my time with Amanda. Time is the most priceless thing that we have and often we treat time as just a measurement. It's been hard to think about how one day, my marriage with Amanda will run out of time.

Which leads me to the other thing that I've learned through my grandmother's passing. I have become much more grateful for the opportunity that Amanda and I have, through our relationship with Jesus Christ, that our time together won't be limited to our time together on Earth. Instead of dying, one of us will have an "I'll see you later" and after that, the other one will have an "I'm coming home!"

In conclusion, anybody who knows my grandma knows that she was always positive and always loved to smile. So in her honor, I'm going to end this post on a positive note. Listed below are a few things I will and will not miss about my Grandma.

Things I will miss about G'ma B:
-Her sweet tea
-Seeing her in the audience at any family events
-Her amazing cakes
-Her sweet smiles
-Her soft laugh and/or snicker
-Her loud cackle when something was hilarious
-Her hugs
-Going fishing with her
-Her positive outlook

Things I will NOT miss about G'ma B:
-Her frozen cookies (she survived the Great Depression, so needless to say, she preferred "freezing" as opposed to throwing away)
-Her cheating and trickery while playing board games (the older she get, the more she "conveniently" she forgot the rules)

We love and miss you Grandma.

Tuesday, November 4, 2008

Tagged (Andrew's answers)

As most of you know, my family is scattered all over the U.S. So although we still love to chat over the phone, we tend to typically update our other family members afar through these blog sites. It's a great way to share pictures, videos, stories and store memories. Well, as you probably noticed (via-Amanda's last post), my family has been playing this "blog tag" game. Yes, I'll give it to you... at first glance, an online game of cyber tag is a little on the nerdy side. However, Amanda and I have enjoyed reading people's responses as the game as progressed. And now, I have been tagged. So here goes...

4 Random Things About Me:

1. My dream is to one day restore & sail a vintage sailboat
2. A lifelong goal of mine is to one day be a published author
3. I wrote out a checklist of 100 things that I wanted to do within my lifetime, well before the movie "Bucket List" ever came out.
4. I have a beta fish that sits on the corner of my office desk that is named Oscar de la Santos. He received this name after an extra slow work day when I decided to try to poke him with me finger. He moved like a Spanish Matador, hence the name Oscar de la Santos. It sounded fitting.

4 Occupations I'd love to do if talent/money were irrelevant:

1. A mayor in a small, Southern town somewhere on the coast.
(the type of mayor that you only see on the news whenever a huge hurricane is barreling down on the coast... I could be the face of reassurance. That's a scary thought, I know.)
(above: surely I could do better than this guy...)
2. A high school/college basketball, soccer or football coach.
3. A New York Times best-selling author
4. A kicker for the New Orleans Saints (very few hard hits, decent-to-high chances of survival)

4 Guilty Pleasures

1. thick, juicy burgers (the-messier, the better)
2. Sunday afternoon Football, wings & naps
3. Creating different marinates, sauces and rubs
4. Reese's blizzards from Dairy Queen

4 Things I'm Drawn to Buy Even When I Don't Need Them:

1. Movies (my dream is to eventually have my own "Man Cave" with a Blockbuster supply of DVDs)
2. Books
3. Fishing & nautical equipment/gear
4. Electronics & gadgits

3 Challenges I Face on a Daily/Weekly Basis:

1. finding good, quality time to spend with Amanda doing things that she likes
2. finding times for naps
3. not giving my time & energy to the negative people & attitudes that cross my paths on a daily basis

4 Books That Inspired Me or That I Have Simply Enjoyed This Year:

1. "On Call in Hell: A Doctor's Iraq War Story" by CDR. Richard Jadick
(This one is about a doctor who was on call in Fallujah during 2004 when the U.S. took over the terrorist stronghold city. I decided to read this book last week, because with our elections coming up, I figured that reminding myself of the sacrifices made by our men and women who have served, would strengthen my appreciation for my right to vote. This book was beyond powerful.)
2. "I Am America (and So Can You!)" by Stephen Colbert (I wouldn't label this one insightful, but it is hilarious)

(above is a picture of my favorite comedian, Stephen Colbert)
3. "Three Weeks with My Brother" by Nicholas Sparks (A memoir which focuses on the special bound that is found between brothers)
4. "The Bulldozer and the Big Tent: Blind Republicans, Lame Democrats and the Recover of American Ideals" by Todd Gitlin (accurate, right-down-the-middle assessment of the history of recent politics in America)

Friday, October 24, 2008

Tag! :)

I was "tagged" by Kathy to answer these questions. After reading her and Sarah's blogs, I think I have a pretty good idea how the game works. If you get "tagged" you answer the questions and then pick three new people to tag and have them answer the questions. Here's what I came up with!

4 random things about me:
~ I eat a lot of carrots, like 5 lbs a week (I get the big bags at Food Lion!)
~ Clean sheets and vacuumed carpets make me very happy :)
~ I don't really like to cook but I love to bake
~ I love roller coasters and rides!

4 occupations I'd love to do if talent/money were not qualifications:

~ A tour guide at the Egyptian pyramids and an African safari leader
~ A successful writer who travels the country with her husband to meet people and sign my book for them
~ The first woman to head coach an NBA basketball team
~ One of the people that sell all the cool gadets on the QVC channel (confession: I used to practice with shampoo and toothpaste when I was a little kid getting ready for bed)

4 guilty pleasures
~ Mexican food - I could eat it every day!
~ Sweet tea
~ Going to the pool (and beach) - I could go pretty much all day every day in the summer
~ Baths (it might not seem that bad now, but it was hard to give up my relaxing baths during the drought!)

4 things I'm drawn to buy even when I don't need them:
~ Things in the dollar section at Target!
~ New make up (especially when I still need to organize and throw out old stuff)
~ Junk food at the grocery ...but let's be honest, I'm never giving that one up...and I truly believe my husband will thank me:)
~ Clothes on sale at Macy's (man you can get a deal there with coupons!)

4 challenges I face on a daily/weekly basis:
~ Managing my stress level
~ Finding time to work out or at least take walks with Andrew
~ Getting to the grocery store
~ Being on time when starting my day

4 books that have helped/inspired me this year
~ Rich Dad, Poor Dad
~ Spend Well, Live Rich (this one was from our priest that married us...it has great life lessons and financial lessons for beginners)
~ The Bible
~ My business books at school - though it's hard at times to read chapter after chapter, I have learned some great stuff to take with me into my career

3 people I'm tagging:
~ Charlotte Rose
~ Adam
~ Pops

Can't wait to read yall's answers!! :)

Monday, October 20, 2008

"Oh when the Saints, come marchin in..."

Everybody that knows me knows that I dearly love the New Orleans Saints. Always have, always will. Well, this last weekend, Amanda and I met her parents & Keri up for a little tailgatin' & football.


I'm not going to talk a lot about the actual game (because it still is a sensitive subject for me), but nevertheless, we had a great time and here are a few pictures from our day.


Amanda and my Saints Wagon


Keri one-upped Betty Crocker on these Panthers and Saints cupcakes for the game


...at this point of the game, it's safe to say that I was wearing a fake smile for this picture


The Cross ladies trying to stay away from the bonfire that I had going on the grill. When in doubt - more lighter fluid.


Bourbon Chicken Kabobs


Fashion over football.


Amanda seems to disagree, but I personally find this picture quite romantic.

Monday, September 22, 2008

Married Life

Every time we run into friends it seems as though they seem to ask the same question: "How's married life going for ya?"

The truth is, married life is amazing. We've both been very busy but now that the summer is over for me, my work load should be slowing down; which is great news for both Amanda and me.

An ongoing adventure in our lives right now is our ongoing lessons on cooking. Amanda is getting pretty good at making biscuits and I have been finding ways to ruin recipes with too much Tabasco sauce. I guess it's a good thing Amanda didn't marry me for my kitchen-abilities.

We also have recently experienced the joys of auto selling and purchasing. Some of you know about Ol' Landy (my 2000 Land Rover Discovery) that was down for the count over the last year (continuous transmission problems). Well, after saying our goodbye's, we finally sold Landy. I had my good times with Landy but at the end of the day, that Brit was one stubborn vehicle.

With that said, Amanda and I fell in love with a Toyota Tacoma truck. So far, so good... we're loving it. Here is a picture of the truck...

One last bit of blog-worthy news: Each year, my side of the family has a putt-putt tournament. I know the majority of you are thinking "Putt-Putt?" Yes, Putt-Putt. Think PGA Master's meets middle school nightlife at Frankie's fun park... put those two together and you have my family's annual Putt-Putt tournament.

In match play, I've always been able to hold my own. I consistantly will putt one of the lowest rounds, year after year. However, call me Phil Mickelson if you will - I've never been known to win the major.

Our family plays in teams of two. Brothers & their wives against each other and our parents. To the average Joe, this tournament wouldn't mean much. But to me, this determines my level of involvement with my family for the upcoming year. (I'm joking, Mom.)

But this year, things were different; I played with a much improved Amanda (known as "Lady Luck" on the links). I'm proud to announce that this year, Amanda and I won the 5th annual "Shallowbag Bay Bill's World Championship of Golf" title (Shallowbag Bay was the Putt-Putt geographic origin of this tournament - and my dad, Bill, is the host).

Sunday, August 31, 2008

Falls Lake

Amanda and I have always loved the water. Her parents have told me all about how she has always been comfortable on the lake - for instance, Amanda learned how to water ski around the age of 4. On my side of things, I've always been intrigued by sailing, fishing & just boating in general. So needless to say, Amanda and I try to find any time within the gaps of our often busy schedules to run out to the lake on my parents boat.

Today, we were fortunate enough to squeeze in a few hours of boating out at Falls Lake. I will let Amanda take you through today's lake trip with a few pictures, explanations & stories...



For all you Lifetime fans, you probably know about the "Coco Chanel" movie that is coming out on September 13 at 8:00 pm (on Lifetime). I (Amanda) am very excited about it so when Andrew had the towel draped over his shoulders today at the lake, I took it upon myself to create the look of "fashion" as Shirley (who plays Coco Chanel) expresses in the commercials for the movie! Andrew was a good sport as I pretended to be Shirley, or Coco Chanel, and create this wonderful LOOK for him :) Glamorous!



Here I am getting ready to start wake boarding. It took awhile to get me in the water this aftenoon because it was a little rainy and cool but once the clouds blew over, it actually turned out to be a very nice afternoon! I like this picture because it is a great example of all the nice features on Kathy's camera - I like how it captured the blue of the wake board and the rest of the picture is black and white.



Here I am attempting to go outside of the wake. At times I get scared because of the chop and big wake, so a lot of times I have to just go for it! This often works well for me but sometimes leads to major wipe outs. Oh well - as my dad says, "all part of the experience!"



Cute picture of Andrew as he waits for us to jump in so we can go over to the cliffs that we found...



If you read our post about our honeymoon, you remember that we went cliff jumping at one of the cenotes in Mexico. This picture is of a cliff that we found today out at Falls lake. Because we went right after a thunderstorm had passed over this afternoon, the lake was not very crowded at all. We drove further than we usually do and stumbled upon this little area with cliffs. There were already some kids jumping off. So Bill, Andrew, and I swam over and climbed up the slippery rocks so we could jump off this cliff. It was a lot of fun and we found that we enjoy cliff jumping in the United States just as much as in Mexico :) It was the perfect ending to a fun lake trip!

Friday, August 29, 2008

Our Journey Begins!

It's hard to believe that it's been a whole month since our whirlwind of a wedding week - but I can definitely say that it's been the best month of my life. I know the majority of you guys were probably at the wedding, so I guess I'll just start from where we last saw all of you...



When we left Bermuda Run Country Club after the reception, all we could talk about was that it was so hard to believe that after all the planning - all the anticipation - we were finally married. It was the strangest feeling; for the last year it seemed like everything we had going on was centered around or focused on the wedding. And now it was over. What are we suppose to do now?

Well, we didn't really know the answer of that question at that moment, so we decided to put it off for another week and run off to Mayan Riviera, Mexico.

Sunday morning, the day after the wedding, we woke up and headed off to the Charlotte airport to catch a flight for Cancun, Mexico. Growing up, I was lucky enough to travel all throughout Asia, Europe and South America so I pretty much knew what to expect when we hit customs and how to get around the language barriers. But on the other hand, this was Amanda's first trip outside the U.S. and it was a joy to share this experience with her.

In fact, traveling with Amanda might just be my new favorite hobby; every day of the trip, she did something to crack me up. From going through customs, to trying new Mexican snacks, to insisting on eating nachos for breakfast - everything she did, she did it with strong curiosity.



We stayed at the Grand Riviera Princess (about 30 minutes south of Cancun), an immaculate all-inclusive resort with 11 different restaurants and 9 different bars & grills. Numerous pools stretched all throughout the resort and the landscaping was beautiful.

In the morning time, we would usually take a few towels out to our favorite poolside cabana and then go to breakfast. The breakfast buffets had everything that you would expect. After breakfast we typically headed back to our cabana for a slow morning of reading and cat-napping beneath the shade of the palm-branched cabana roof. While I read "Breach of Faith" by Jed Horne (an intriguing mix of first hand Hurricane Katrina stories & an insightful report of the actions of the politicos running around during the event), Amanda kept the reading a little bit more on the lighter side. She doesn't remember the name of the book, but by my judging the book by it's cover, I have a feeling that it had something to do with dresses, dating and your every day slumber party gossip. If I had to guess the title, I'm sure it was something like "Friends are Friends Forever."



Nearly every afternoon, Amanda would grab her beach bag and I'd grab the towels, and together we would head down to the beach. One of our favorite things about the resort that we stayed at was all the different activities that they offered; our favorite of these activities was sea-kayaking. Both of us were amazed by how crystal clear the gulf waters were - even hundreds and hundreds of yards off the shoreline. We literally could see everything on the ocean floor.

Each night, we headed to one of many top-notch restaurants. It was a hard job trying to figure out what type of restaurant we wanted each night - seafood or fondue? Or maybe Japanese? - but we managed to pull through it.

Pretty much it was the same routine every day - a little bit of the pool, a little beach, a little kayaking and a lot of eating - but on Tuesday and Wednesday, we mixed things up a bit.

On Tuesday afternoon, we took a shuttle to Playa del Carmen - a city 45 minutes south of Cancun. We were told that our shuttle would drop us off at 1:00pm and that he'd be back to pick us up at 6:00pm. 5 hours in a little Mexican city? I was certain that we were going to end up with nothing to do after an hour or two... I guess in my mind I imagined us sitting on a Mexican street curb eating burritos for hours upon hours - with bike carriages zipping by us and moped scooter horns in the background.



But then we stepped off the shuttle bus and saw Playa del Carmen for what it really was.

Wow. There's all sorts of mischief we can get caught up in for 5 hours...

I don't know how to accurately describe Playa del Carmen... but I'll try. Ok, so imagine a quaint little seaport town in Mexico. Palm trees, fishing boats, little scuba diving shops & a gorgeous view of the beach peaking through every alleyway. Nice right?
Ok, now imagine the North Carolina State Fair in all it's southern glory with bars between every vendor - Welcome to Playa del Carmen!

It truly was New Orlean's French Quarter moved to a setting like Havana, Cuba.


Every where we went, we had Mexicans of all shapes, ages and sizes yelling "Honnneyyyymoonaaas! Honnneyyymoonas! (were we really that obvious?) Come look at jewelry! Very nice jewelry! Real Tiffany's bracelet!"


To Amanda's disappointment, we came to find out that nothing "real" in Mexico was truly real. Fake designer purses, jewelry and clothing... every where. However, with that being said, we thoroughly enjoyed stopping at each and every little shop/shack. Amanda found some gorgeous handcrafted jewelry (and jewelry box) and I pretty much just enjoyed the walk (truth be told, I did buy a Cuban cigar).

When we weren't shopping, we most likely were sitting down at one of the cool bar & grills that were on every block. It was amazing. My favorite place was a cool little bar (where we stopped for chips and salsa) that was open to the breeze coming off the Gulf and had wooden swings all around the bar. It was an authentic Mexican experience.


The following day, Amanda and I woke up bright and early for an adventure tour guide named "Tulum and Beyond." This proved to be my favorite day of the honeymoon.

At 7:45am we were picked up from the front of our hotel by a van. Inside the van, we were accompanied by a family of 5 (two married couples and a father) from Houston, Texas. Our tour guide for the day was Edwar (who Amanda leaned towards pronouncing it "Edar" and I pretty much kept things basic, with simply calling him "Eddie"). From introduction on, Amanda and I loved Eddie. He was somewhere around 50-55 years old, with a soft voice, a wonderful sense of humor and a huge smile. It was evident all through the day that he absolutely loved his job and most definitely loved his Mexico.

Eddie started the day off by taking us to the Mayan Ruins of Tulum. We learned about the history and the culture of the Mayans and we also learned that the Spanish conquistadors were real party crashers.


I cannot tell you how much I enjoyed visiting the Ruins. Somewhere about 5 years ago (well before the movie "Bucket List" came out), I compiled a list of 100 things I wanted to do in my lifetime. Well, as you have probably guessed it, "Visiting the Mayan Ruins" was one of the most desired things that I wanted to do on my list. On one of our first dates, I actually shared some of my list with Amanda - who would have thought that we'd be completing some of the items on my list together as a married couple???

The structures were absolutely amazing. We visited the home of the Mayan king, the Temple where they worshiped their many gods ("Zuma" being the most significant) and we even visited the pit where the Mayans use to offer human sacrifices - in which Amanda threatened to push me in if I didn't stop teasing her (Amanda didn't eat breakfast that morning and we were joking about the very likely possibility of her passing out in the Mayan Temple and we weren't sure how the Mayans would take that).

After about an hour or two, our group headed back to the van and headed to our next stop - the Grand Cenote of the Quintana Roo (by the way, no worries about Amanda... the van ride was filled with a variety of snack options). For those that don't know, a cenote is pretty much a river that runs through a cave system.


FUN FACT: There are no above ground rivers in the Yucatan Peninsula. All the rivers are below ground - once again, cenotes.

When we got to the caves, we were given snorkeling gear. The water was a little chilly, but after a few minutes, it absolutely felt wonderful. From our point of entry, Amanda and I were allowed to explore the caves & cenotes. Between the various shades of bright blue water and the thousands of tropical colored fish, our view was indescribable. While in some areas, we could see or even touch the bottom of the cave floor, there were many areas that we could look down into dark, deep blue caverns where the depth was relatively unknown. The sight was amazing.

During our "Tulum and Beyond" tour, we were taken to a couple different cenotes. While the first cenote was a better snorkeling and swimming cave, the second one that we went to had some really cool cliffs that we were able to jump off of. It was kind of funny really.

When we walked up to the part of the cliff where we could jump off, everybody in our group decided that they might just walk down to the bottom of the water and jump later. I'm ashamed to say what happened next.

The group started to head down the path that led to the bottom of the cliffs where the group would eventually set down there stuff and walk into the water. But right before the group took our first steps down the path, out of nowhere, Amanda dropped her stuff and jumped. While part of me was a little embarrassed by all of the jokes that she just subjected me to by the rest of the group... I must say, I was awfully proud.

We stayed at the 2nd cenote for about an hour or so - taking photographs & jumping off the cliffs into the beatiful green and blue water.

Although we could have stayed there for many more hours, Eddie finally insisted that our group should be on our way to the next stop - a cookout lunch that he had prepared for us at a rural beach. So once again, we piled into the van and headed further south to the small fishing village just north of Campechen. If you know anything about this area of the world, you would know that this area (around what the locals call "Crocodile Rock" - due to the shape of land that resembles a crocodile with a tail that reaches into the Gulf of Mexico) has a lot of pirate history behind it. You see, this area of the coast is home to the 2nd largest reef in the world, which made it very difficult to navigate from the sea - which deemed it a perfect pirate stomping ground. Furthermore, this reef once provided the perfect hideout for the great gentlemen privateer Jean Lafitte (the former war hero of the Battle of New Orleans). I've always been intrigued by pirates and sailing so I especially enjoyed our visit to this area of Mexico as well.

Eddie's cooking that afternoon was quite possibly the best bbq chicken I've ever had. Amanda liked it because he also had cut up some fresh pineapple, made some Mexican rice and pulled out some chips and salsa. Before and after our cookout, we mainly spent the time swaying on some hammocks that we found on the beach. We loved this beach - you could look down the coastline both ways, without seeing anyone besides the occasional village fisherman. It was truly amazing to walk along a beach where the sand was undisturbed by any sort of crowds or tourists. I think out of all the places I've ever been, this beach just north of "Crocodile Rock" might possibly be the most peaceful place I've ever visited.

Although we both had a blast on the honeymoon, we both were happy to get home and start our life together in the real world. We also had enough time over our trip to Mexico to figure out that we didn't need to necessarily figure out the answer of "what do we do now?" I think we realized that if we could survive customs in Mexico and the market places of Playa del Carmen together, we would definitely be able to figure out, each day, how to walk together through the real world.

*I apologize for how lengthy and time consuming this post most likely was for you as a reader. However, we've been asked a million times about our honeymoon and we figured that it might just be best to tell it one good time instead of a million little times.


Here are a few more pictures of our honeymoon that ya'll might like...